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friends with benefits: is it worth it?

so, i read this article.  tell me what you think:  http://uk.askmen.com/love/vanessa_100/118_love_secrets.html

friends with benefits:

1.  Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment
2.  Two friends with a very casual dating relationship. The benefits can be really good, long, flirty conversations; make-out sessions with no commitment; sex without commitment; etc.
3.  A safe relationship, that mimics a real partnership but is void or greatly laking jealousy and other such emotions that come with a serious relationship.
4.  A healthy, fun sexual relationship between two people......
Until one falls for the other, The friendship blows to
pieces. And those two people find themselves worse off than
they were before.

this whole concept of 'friends with benefits'  is becoming more and more common.  just like everything else, it has its pro's and its con's. the question is, do the pro's outweigh the con's? is it worth losing a friendship over?

the real question is:  if you are not ready for or do not want a committment, should you be having sex in the first place?

honestly, i dont get the whole concept. it seems selfish to me. its selfish sex basically.  what happens when the other person finds a boyfriend/girlfriend? you get pushed to the side. i guess thats why there cant be any emotion involved.  what does it say about your worth? "Friends with benefits sounds enticing. And yes, real relationships are tough. But why settle for less than your potential?  most of the time it never leads into a real relationship

http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qn4176/is_20050222/ai_n11834318#continue

the extreme opposite of friends with benefits is abstinence.  its hard to live in a world full of sexual temptation and remain abstinent.  is the reward greater in the long run?

tell me what you think about this whole topic!

in over my head

one more week!!!!!!!!!!!!

so, i only have one more week of work left and it feels so great.  then i am off to michigan for a week.  i cant wait to see my niece and nephew.

so, these past few days have been weird.  jared and i havent talked to eachother in a while and i had gotten to a point  that i knew he would call me if he wanted to talk.  we admitted to eachother that we liked eachother but we lived too far away from eachother to date so we remained just friends. out of the blue, he called me monday which kind of shocked me cause he never called really called me.  i was the one always calling him.  then he called two days later which was even stranger.  as much as i wish he was just calling to talk, it didnt seem like that was the case. he told me a corny pickup line and then we talked for a little bit. sure, i would flirt with him in the past but ever since i knew it was impossible for us to be more than friends i havent flirted.  i honestly dont know if he is looking for something more than a friendship but i know that im tired of this emotional roller coaster and im getting off of it. im not gonna sit around and waste my time thinking about what could have been.

i start training the new girl who is gonna take my place as manager tomorrow. i am gonna miss everybody at my job but im not gonna miss all the crap i went through. i can find a job where i come in and do my job and then go home with no worries. thats all for my rambling!

im quitting!

so, its been six months since i've moved to alabama and its been treating me pretty good.  this past week at work has been psycho.  ive worked 70 hours in the past 8 days.  to make it worst, my aunt went crazy and wanted me to do 5 million things at once and it all couldnt be done.  i somehow got yelled at for it all not being done.  i was short a person all week long which didnt help at all.  my aunt thinks that since im family, she can treat me like crap. everyday ive come home this week, i felt like a failure cause i couldnt do anything right in my aunts eyes. i have never worked a job where there has been so much negativity as my job now.  ive never felt so de-valued.  my aunt has only told me two positive things the entire six months i have worked there.  so, i decided to put in my two weeks notice on monday. i honestly shouldnt have to deal with all that junk.  i dont have a different job yet but im gonna look next week on my days off.  im honestly not worried about it. it will all work out.  im just happier knowing that i wont be working there in two weeks.  i dont care if i dont make as much money as i do now. the money has been great but its not worth it in the long run.

plus im getting $1000 back from my taxes which will be great.  i can get my car fixed and pay more of my school loan off.